Ah… Halloween. The thorn in the side of every good-willed Christian parent. To celebrate or not? Participate in the prevailing culture or a Christian alternative equivalent? Let your kids dress up? What costumes are appropriate and which are not? Those are the questions Christian parents must wrestle with every year. (Not to mention how to deal with all the candy!).
Different parents (all of them good-intentioned Christians who want to do the right thing) answer these questions in different ways – sometimes the same parents answer differently each year. Some parents don’t see any problem at all with their kids dressing up and going door-to-door begging for candy while other parents see Halloween as “Satan’s Christmas” and don’t want their kids having anything to do with it at all. Still others walk the middle ground, either seeing it as a necessary and unavoidable evil that negotiates reluctant participation, or a theoretically fun holiday that’s okay as long as you celebrate at a church and call it “Hallelujah,” “Harvest,” or some other non-Halloweeny name.

Honestly, we’ve come down on different sides of the issue at different times. But we’ve never attempted to tell anyone else what they should or should not do for Halloween. What may be a sin for one family because of their conscience may be completely free another family. Each family should seek the guidance of the Holy Spirit on this matter and talk about all issues Halloween as a family.

Here’s what we’ve decided for ourselves for this year.

• We are NOT going to spend the evening in church. Our church is not having an event and we are not as a family going to any other church event. I am not necessarily against this idea. We have gone to church events in the past and have had a blast. Frankly, they are the best bang for your buck. Lots of candy in a short amount of time and warm inside.
• We are going to a community event instead. Here I see the same positives as a church event PLUS we are out in the community meeting people who are NOT in church. And frankly, I don’t see the difference. If two parties both have costumes, games and candy, one is not “sacred” just because it is held at a church while the other “secular” just because it is not. At times like this, I imagine Jesus shunning the church parties in favor of partying with “tax collectors and sinners” and getting a lot of flack about it from religious people.
• We are going to go trick-or-treating on our block and pass out candy at our house. This is simply strategic. We are new to the community and still don’t know a lot of people in our neighborhood. But every time I do meet somebody, they know who I am (i.e. pastor). I see this as a great opportunity to meet people AND score some more candy.

That’s what our family is doing today. How about yours? How did you decide? Do you have certain criteria you use to evaluate and/or parameters you operate within? I’d be interested in hearing from you.

Have a safe and happy Halloween/Harvest/Hallelujah day!

I took the challenge from Nelson Searcy to make a list of 100 reasons why our church should grow. The premise is that if you know the “why,” any “how” is possible. I thought there was no way I could come up 100 reasons – 20 maybe – but once I got going, I couldn’t stop.

1.  So God will be glorified.

2.  So we can reach more lost people with the Good News of Jesus Christ.

3.  So we can better serve our local community.

4.  So we can get more involved in world missions.

5.  So we can more quickly reproduce churches.

6.  So we can ignite a church planting movement.

7.  So we can plant a church/campus in [East] Grand Forks.

8.  So we can develop more leaders.

9.  So we can multiply more disciples.

10.  So we can transform more children into disciples.

11.  So we can have more people serving.

12.  So we can hire Ben as a full time worship leader.

13.  So we can hire Kevin as an executive pastor.

14.  So we can support John more as a church planter in-training.

15.  So we can take on more church planters in-training.

16.  So we can have more people participating in powerful worship.

17.  So we can give more away.

18.  So we can make a bigger dent in the gates of hell.

19.  So we can equip more people for ministry.

20.  So we can support more church plants.

21.  So we can have a truly generous benevolence ministry.

22.  So we can buy a sign for the church.

23.  So we can make a more effective and efficient website.

24.  So we can make the church foyer more inviting.

25.  So we can buy more children’s ministry resources.

26.  So we can do more sound paneling to make the sound better.

27.  So more lives will be changed.

28.  So we can send more people out.

29.  So we can open a coffee shop.

30.  So we can open a youth center.

31.  So we can have more, bigger and better concerts that reach more kids.

32.  So we can open a discipleship training school.

33.  So we can open a leadership development school.

34.  So we can have a larger impact in the community.

35.  So we can have a car repair ministry for single moms.

36.  So we can facilitate a homeless hospitality network.

37.  So we can have a legitimate internet ministry.

38.  So we can buy video equipment to do multi-site ministry.

39.  So we can have a creative arts team that helps make the message stick.

40.  So we can have more people connecting with God and others in GPS groups.

41.  So we can do more service projects.

42.  So we can love more people.

43.  So we can hire an administrator that will free others up for more ministry.

44.  So we will have a bigger leadership pool to draw from.

45.  So we can have more God-glorifying baptisms.

46.  So we can have more God-honoring weddings.

47.  So we can see God working in more lives.

48.  So we can hear more testimonies of God’s goodness and grace.

49.  So we can have multiple services that reach a wider audience.

50.  So more people can hear and be transformed by our sermons.

51.  So we can give God the credit.

52.  So God will have a broader brush to paint his masterpiece.

53.  So we can plant a church/campus in Moorhead.

54.  So we can plant a church/campus in Crookston.

55.  So we can plant a church/campus in Winnipeg (or some other Canadian city/town).

56.  So we can plant a church/campus in Devils Lake, ND.

57.  So we can plant a church/campus in Minot, ND.

58.  So we can have resources to pave and stripe our parking lot.

59.  So more people will call on the name of Jesus.

60.  So hell will be de-populated.

61.  So heaven will be more populated.

62.  So we can record and produce a worship album that directs more people to God.

63.  So more marriages will be saved.

64.  So more families will be reconciled.

65.  So more people will have eternal hope.

66.  So more people will be set free from addictions.

67.  So more people will be delivered from sinful behaviors and lifestyles.

68.  So God can heal more hurts.

69.  So more people can hear and respond to God’s calling on their life.

70.  So we can buy the old Ben Franklin building and use it for ministry.

71.  So we can dream bigger dreams.

72.  So we can take more risks.

73.  So we can see God do more miracles.

74.  So we can trust God to provide for more needs.

75.  So we can have resources to open a church office.

76.  So we can have resources to supply and staff a church office.

77.  So more people can experience authentic Christian community.

78.  So we can develop new ministries.

79.  So we can hire a children’s minister.

80.  So we can hire a youth minister.

81.  So we can provide more opportunities for men to deepen in their faith.

82.  So we can be good stewards of what God has given us.

83.  So we can have the church staffed during normal business hours.

84.  So we can have a mom’s ministry.

85.  So we can have more people involved in prayer.

86.  So we can teach the Bible to more people.

87.  So more people will experience unconditional love.

88.  So we can have more people to clean the church.

89.  So we can have more musicians to play on the worship team.

90.  So more people will see church in a new light.

91.  So Jesus’ name will be lifted high in Thief River Falls and beyond.

92.  So we can have a mentoring ministry.

93.  So more people will be sharing their faith with their peers.

94.  So people can look and see what God has done and give Him praise.

95.  So every knee will bow and tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord!

96.  So more people will know that they matter to God.

97.  So we can inspire more pastors and churches to dream big dreams for God.

98.  So we can help other churches.

99.  So we can have a wider reach.

100.  So God can delight in us.

Recent events have me questioning marriage. No, not my own marriage. Really it’s the marriage of marriage that has me questioning – that is, the marriage between state and church in American marriages.

In America, couples desiring to get married have to obtain a marriage license from the state. They then have to be married by a “state-approved” officiant who signs the marriage license and sends it into the state for their official records. Graciously, for a fee, the state has approved me as a minister of Jesus Christ to perform marriage ceremonies on their behalf. And because the state is so concerned about the institution of marriage, in their benevolence, they also allow select couples to be married, for an even larger fee.

That’s right, I said “select couples.” No, this is not about gay marriage (though that will come in to play later). You see, for some reason, I never questioned this happy marriage between church and state… That is, until the couple I’ve been counseling and preparing to marry was denied (delayed, really… so far) a license to marry by the state.

That’s right, a male-female couple that has expressed their desire to marry before God, family and friends has been told, “sorry, no can-do” by the state. And me, a minister of the Gospel of Jesus Christ, who has been counseling this couple and believes they are ready to be united in holy matrimony, is somehow left without authority in this relationship.

That’s it. I want a divorce.

You see, marriage used to be strictly a religious affair. Ministers were the only people who could perform marriage ceremonies and they did it freely without registering with the state and without a license. The state got into the marriage business as a means of monitoring interracial marriages and soon discovered their was money to be had and then made it a requirement for all couples to acquire licenses permitting them to marry. And ever since the state got involved there has been a widespread misunderstanding among religious and secular folks alike about the difference between the civil right of marriage and the sacred rite of marriage. (This is where same-sex marriage comes in to play, by the way).

When a minister of Jesus Christ performs a marriage ceremony it is, first and foremeost, a sacred rite – a religious union. It is not a civil union, although the state may recognize it as such. Clergy have the God-ordained right to marry or not marry whoever they choose, regardless of what the state thinks. Religious marriage is a sacred rite of the church. It is a relationship ordained by God, blessed by God, and entrusted by God to the members of Christ’s church.

Civil marriage is the binding legal contract of marriage recognized by the state. Again, it is important to recognize that what the church does is not civil, but religious. Although the church may offer the rite of marriage, the right of marriage is extended only by the state. The church must not impose the rite of marriage on the state just as the state must not impose the right of marriage on the church. They are two separate, protected institutions. So the state cannot tell me as a minister of Jesus Christ who I can and cannot marry. They can, however, decide whether or not to recognize that union as legally binding.

This begs the question: what is the benefit of a legally-binding marriage? The only benefit I can see would be in the ending of the marriage – divorce. It is only in the ending of a marriage that the civil union becomes a factor – when the court is trying to determine who gets what. But in most states, even sacred unions are considered legal unions after a certain amount of time.

So here’s my predicament: as a minister, do I observe the laws of the state in this matter and not perform a sacred rite for anyone who does not have the civil right, or do I act on God’s authority and the Holy Spirit’s wisdom to marry or not marry whomever I choose? And what are the ramifications for each?

“Lord, teach us to pray…” (Luke 11:2)

Confession: I have really been struggling with prayer lately. I know prayer is important – for my own spirituality, my family, and our church. But for some reason, it’s just a struggle right now. I’ve really been convicted lately that we need to be a church of prayer – that we are just too deep into the battle to be as nonchalant about prayer as we are. But I know that must start with me. If we are to be a praying church, I must first be a praying pastor.

And so I am praying, “Lord, teach me to pray!”

This request of the disciples strikes me. They don’t ask Jesus, as is often implied, to teach them how to pray… or where or when. But simply to pray. In other words, “Lord, teach us to be praying people.” “Teach us about the importance of prayer.” “Teach us to be utterly dependent on God in prayer.”

And so Jesus teaches them by praying a prayer that Christians have recited religiously for 2,000 years. Now, I’m all for praying what has become known as “the Lord’s Prayer” – I pray it myself almost every day. But we must remember that this prayer is not a lesson in liturgy, but, essentially, an answer to the question: “Why should we pray?”

1. Because God is our Father and He wants us to have a parent-child relationship of utter dependence on Him (“Our Father…”).

2. Because God is holy – completely set apart from all things in heaven and on earth – and dependence on Him in prayer keeps this truth in order (“may your name be kept holy”).

3. Because prayer brings God’s kingdom to reign here on earth (“May your kingdom come soon.”).

4. Because prayer reminds us who’s in charge (“May your will be done…”).

5. Because God is our Father, He is our Provider (“Give us this day our daily bread.”).

6. Because in seeking God’s holiness, we are made acutely aware of both our need for forgiveness and our need to forgive others with the same grace (“Forgive us our sins as we have forgiven those who sin against us.”).

7. Because God is our Father, He is our Protector. Every day Satan tries to derail us with temptations and our Father is the only one who can deliver us (“Don’t let us yield to temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.”).

8. Because God is all-powerful and His kingdom reigns forever in glory (“Yours is the kingdom, power and glory…”).

Now to stop writing about prayer and become a person of prayer.

Lord, teach me to pray.

Last night, Heidi and I watched Bill Maher’s scathing documentary on religion, Religulous. Maher travels around the globe interviewing mostly religious extremists and bombarding them with questions meant to poke fun at the ridiculousness of their beliefs. The documentary is irreverent, foul, sacrilegious and blasphemous. And here are some reasons Christians should watch it.

1. Maher asks some good questions that many deep-thinking seekers are asking. Like, “Why is faith good?” “Why doesn’t an all-powerful God speak to us directly?” “How can otherwise rational people believe that a snake talked and a man got swallowed by a whale?” “Why is a literal 6-day/young earth understanding important?” “Why is homosexuality such a huge issue for Christians when Jesus never said anything about it?” Many of his questions are sarcastic baiting used to get a good chuckle, but some are thought-provoking inquiries that deserve discussion.

2. The Bible tells us that we should be ready with an answer when skeptics ask (1 Peter 3:15-16). Imagine yourself sitting with Maher. How would you answer his questions? Remember, this is not to be done in a combative argumentative manner, but with gentleness and respect.

3. Granted, the footage is shot and edited to produce the desired effect, but some things even I have to admit are just plain ridiculous. It is good to be able to turn the looking glass on ourselves and see from an outside perspective and be able to either laugh or cry at our own behavior.

4. Our friends, neighbors, family and co-workers may watch and be influenced by it. They will have questions or comments that could lead to a great opportunity to dialogue about your faith.

5. Pray for Bill Maher and Larry Charles (the director from “Seinfeld” fame) and your skeptical friends. The Bible tells us that Satan has blinded the minds of unbelievers (2 Corinthians 4:4). From my believing perspective, this is readily apparent in the documentary. No amount of reasonable debate will ever persuade an unbelieving skeptic as long as they have blinders on. Prayer is the most important element in any one’s conversion.

6. It is good to ask questions of ourselves. We shouldn’t shy away from asking ourselves difficult questions and settling for trite Sunday School answers. A healthy dose of doubt is necessary for belief or it wouldn’t be faith.

Even though there is coarse language, a brief scene of nudity and lots of irreverent stuff that will probably make you angry, I suggest getting together with Christian friends and watching this documentary and then asking one another, “How would you answer that question?” “What is the truth in this documentary?” “How do we need to grow in our own knowledge and understanding of our beliefs?”

The next step would then be to watch it with some non-believing friends with the intent of having a gentle and respectful discussion afterwards. In one night, you may get years of insight into your friend’s worldview and how you can more effectively dialogue in the future.

We live in an irreverent, foul world that must be engaged faithfully and thoughtfully.

I love being a pastor. It is an awesome calling that I don’t take lightly. It can be quite a rush. Unfortunately, it can also be quite a drain. Emotional highs and lows come with the territory. Because of this, the most important person a pastor needs to lead is himself (or herself) – to be able to guide his spirit, emotions, body and mind down the ministry rollercoaster.

About a year and a half ago when I was inbetween pastorates, I went on a solitude retreat and did a lot of introspection about what I need to have a successful, balanced and sustainable life and ministry. I came up with the following list.

Self-Sustainability Plan

1.  I need to get my weight down to 170 lbs and keep it there. (I am currently about 190!)

• I need to exercise 3 times a week.
• I need to develop a plan for healthy eating and sustain it.

2.  I need to have a regularly scheduled devotional time every day.

3.  I need to get up at 6 a.m. six days of the week.

4.  I need to read at least one chapter a day and one book per month in something unrelated to my sermon preparation. I need to be focused & balanced in my reading selections, reading one of each of the following topics per year:

• Personal leadership development
• Personal spiritual formation and discipleship
• Communication (preaching)
• Church growth or related issues
• Current trends & pop culture
• Theology or ecclesiology
• Marriage
• Parenting
• Popular reading (NY Times bestsellers)
• A novel

5.  I need to make one blog post per week.

6.  I need to have at least one mini-date per week with Heidi and at least one regularly scheduled date with Heidi per month outside of the house.

7.  We need to have at least 4 hours of family time per week.

8.  I need to have at least one hour per week of one-on-one time with each of the boys and a 3 hour chunk with each once per month.

9.  I need to get away alone for 24 hours once a month and for 72 hours once per quarter.

10.  I need to attend at least one conference per year.

11.  I need to get together at least once a month with friends/colleagues.

12.  I need to do something fun for myself at least one per month.

13.  We need to create a disciplined budget and stick to it!

As I look over this plan, I am not doing very well. It is no wonder my life feels so out of whack. I know what I need to do. Now I just need to do it. And I need the accountability, support and encouragement of those around me to help me be the healthiest, most-balanced, successful leader I can be.

I recently had a great time traveling to other churches and sharing about what God is doing in Thief River Falls and Northwest Minnesota. I shared encouragement from the Bible and from our experience about the hard work that has been accomplished by faith, our labor that has been prompted by love, and endurance inspired by our hope in Jesus Christ (1 Thessalonians 1:3). I shared about how God is blessing our church – really a movement of churches in northern MN – and how the Holy Spirit is moving among us in a mighty way (but greater things are still to come!).

Our church rocks! And although it was fun (and necessary) to share and worship with other believers, it was hard to be gone for three weeks from the church and people that I love.  It has been such an exciting summer as God has brought us many new guests who are finding Epiphany Station to be the kind of place that we’ve been working so hard to make. It has been so encouraging to see our people embracing guests and doing whatever it takes – prompted by love – to accomplish whatever needs to be done. We are truly experiencing a special time of God’s blessing (but greater things are still to be done!).

But one thing I’ve learned in years of ministry is that when God is at work, something else is working extra hard to unravel what God is doing. The Bible warns us to “Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour” (1 Peter 5:8). In my experience, this “devouring” rarely comes from external persecution, but from internal turmoil as Satan prowls among us, the church, looking for an opportunity – a word to twist; an experience to distort; an idea to debate; a relationship to break – to pounce and devour God’s people. Satan knows there is no better way to keep us from reaching “lost” people than to occupy our time and energy with those who are “found.” He knows the best way to distract us from accomplishing God’s mission is to get us to focus on our personal agendas. So be self-controlled and alert! Because the enemy is prowling around looking for an opportunity to devour. Any of us can be the prey. Perhaps, especially me.

I admit it. I get frustrated, discouraged and angry when Satan attacks. It usually takes me a while to figure out what’s going on, so those feelings get initially placed in improper places. But Scripture reminds us that “We are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places” (Ephesians 6:12). Satan wants us to think that each other is the enemy. If he can do that, he wins. But we know the truth. Our enemy is not you, me, or any person, but Satan himself.  He is the only one worthy of our anger.

So we must “Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil” (Ephesians 6:10-11).

God has given us a mission of hope with a message of salvation to reach people who are lost without Christ’s love. And through the power of the Holy Spirit and lots of hard work being accomplished through faith, God’s message is ringing out and His mission is advancing.

And our enemy hates it.

So we must “Pray in the Spirit at all times and on every occasion. Stay alert and be persistent in your prayers for all believers everywhere” (Ephesians 6:18).

We are in the midst of a battle for the hearts, minds and souls of people. Our lone enemy is Satan. Our only hope is Jesus Christ.

FRIEND:

You are right.  We could get into a long discussion and neither of us probably has the time or energy for that.      Thanks for your note though. I know it took some time to write. And me being me I can’t help but reply at least a little more (and you might do the same, but honestly, if you don’t feel like it I will totally understand, as eventually one of us will just say, well, all right then, it is what it is).

What you said about possibly not needing to profess the name of Christ (“in this lifetime”? one might after he dies?) is interesting.  I remember DH saying something like this in college and it was quite a revelation to me at the time.  Now I believe that, and more.  At the time I thought it was an odd thing to say and I thought he was a little wacko liberal in that aspect. Ha.

Your “but I wouldn’t want to take my chances” comment is a bit bothersome.  My dad said the same thing during our talk!  He even called it “Jesus insurance.”  If people believe in God because they are afraid of him, or of the consequence of not believing, what kind of God is that?  What kind of mentality is that? I know you are not in support of people believing in God to escape hell, but rather to embrace love. Still, it seems to be built into Christianity that people still feel this fear about what might happen to them if they have “chosen poorly.” Newsflash: there is no hell. [“How do you know? What if you are wrong?” I don’t think I am. The God I know won’t send his children to eternal damnation. It is a construct of later Christianity, drawing from Dante, to have this eternal hotbed of flames and torment. Hell in the Bible was referring to a place. I’m sure you know much more than I do about Gehenna].

This is kind of a cop out.  Surely you cannot compare believing in the fact that the earth goes around the sun to believing in the idea that a human could be born of a virgin?  One is documented, studied, something that happens every day (ok it takes a year for a full trip) and the other is a mystical event that does not occur in reality.  You can believe that it takes faith to believe in both things, but you have to admit the degree of faith varies immensely. And you are surely right – to believe the stories in the Bible you are certainly taking leaps of faith. I agree with you on that.

No I’m not strictly a man of science these days, but a little perspective to all the naiveté of my youth has served me well.  And on that note, it’s a little presumptuous of you to write my autobiography for me, ha. [what about you? Is your more devout state trying to make up for mistakes of your youth?]   I am not merely reacting to the way I was raised, but, as I explained to my parents, I am actually learning more than I was previously afforded to know.  That is, I grew up with a “the Bible says it, God says it, that’s good enough for me” sort of worldview.  How limiting is that?   Is that any way to live? How does that respect the brain God gave us?  What if the Bible contains many things that are wrong? What if other books contain the truth about God? What if the truth is out there in the world to ascertain and experience?

If people search and eventually come back to Christ, then they have good reasons for doing so.  My Dad thinks I may yet come back.  I am happy to let him believe that, but I am not wildly swinging to some opposite extreme to react to the way I was raised.  Rather, I have been in a slow, controlled, rational learning process, discovering the truth about a lot of misleading things I was raised believing (ex: many of the stories in the Bible that are the most fantastical did not literally happen (creation story, garden of Eden, flood, parting the red sea, etc)).

It has been good to feel like I am kind of stepping out of this cramped box into a bigger world where there are infinitely more possibilities, more love and tolerance, and much less fear. Oh, and far fewer “others” as well.

But I am pleased to allow you and other Christians the faith that you enjoy. I expect the same sort of tolerance in return. I’m not saying you personally are intolerant, but it is built into the religion that if you don’t subscribe to that view, you are wrong. And I’ve moved away from that, to a land that flows freely with beer, free thought, tolerance, and hand rolled cigarettes!

MY REPLY:

Thank you as well for taking the time to reply. You got me on a day when I am struggling with motivation to do other things, so replying to your reply seems like a worthwhile procrastination. I am more interested in your journey and process than I am in “re-converting” you, so thanks again for sharing.

My motivation is not fear and I wouldn’t call Jesus “insurance.” My motivation is love – for God and others. When I said I wouldn’t want to take the chance, I wasn’t so much as referring to eternity as I was to the whole spectrum of existence. I’m struggling for metaphors here, but if God is offering me a diamond ring as a gift, I would hate to settle for a cheap plastic one. I would want the very best – not out of fear of being punished for refusing his gift, but out of love and respect for how much it cost him.

I agree with a lot of what you said about hell, but I wouldn’t go so far as to say it doesn’t exist. That wouldn’t be giving human ingenuity enough credit. People create hell, not God. Hell is separation from God and when people willfully choose to separate themselves, they are choosing/creating hell for themselves. Given a penthouse, some people still choose to live in the slums.

Regarding faith – sure the earth’s rotation around the sun is documented with years of empirical data, but it hasn’t always been that way. People believed for a much longer time that the sun revolved around the earth. Then this new evidence came to the surface to counter that understanding. How do you know new evidence won’t come to the surface at some point to discredit our current understanding? Furthermore, so the earth revolves around the sun? How does it do that? Whatever data and reasons you give, it still ultimately comes down to faith – you believe this reason over that one and you trust (faith) the ones who are doing the research and feeding you the data.

I think it is too bad that you were force-fed such a narrow, cramped understanding of God in your youth. I probably hate that brand of Christianity as much as you do. But there is a place in Christ that is out-of-the-box, free of fear, tolerant and free-flowing with beer. Jesus doesn’t tell we have to believe in a literal Garden of Eden, Noah’s ark or that a fish swallowed a man. He simply says, “follow me.” And if you do, your life will never be the same.

FRIEND:

I’m not sure what this means.  In your mind does it apply to any spiritually seeking person?  a Buddhist?  A more native (stereotypical “jungle”) person and his religion?  They will come to know the name of Jesus, or more of an intangible feeling or connection with him that is different than some connection to God?

For Christians, Jesus is big.  For the rest of the world, probably not.  There are many, as you know, who would argue that the actual historical Jesus is nothing like what Christianity has written and portrayed him to be over the centuries.  They cite evidence to say he was just a mortal man.  A good dude, for sure, but not the son of God, not born of a virgin.

In fact, the Jesus story (born of a virgin, sacrificed, rises again) is a re-telling of ancient myths told many times before the Christian one.  I’m sure you are aware of this and yet the Christian story continues to have meaning for you.  When I learn about how Christianity as a religion or a story fits into the larger context of all ancient myths and world religions, it becomes just another option to use to try and seek God.  It is not a totally invalid option, but like I said, just one of many.

And I don’t know where you stand on the exclusivity of Christianity being the “only” option, but I know my parents believe that, and thus this is harder for them to sort out in their mind than it would be for a more liberal Christian.

So for you Jesus is pivotal.  For many others it is a curiosity to consider on their journey to meet with God.

I guess I didn’t send the original note intending to get into a long discussion with you, but those are a couple thoughts that I have as a reaction to what you wrote.

As for your comment about not stopping to seek the truth, I agree with that.  Trouble is, when my dad says the exact same thing (which he has), I already know the narrowly defined truth that he hopes I end up finding.  In a multiple choice question, for him at least, it might go something like, “the truth is….:

A.  Jesus

B. The Bible

C.  traditionally practiced Christianity

D.  all of the above, or at least some combination thereof.

MY REPLY:

I am not sure how to reply to this without getting into a long discussion, as well, but I will try to be brief.

First, it is obvious that people who are not Christians believe something else about Jesus other than that he is the Son of God. But everybody believes something about him – he was a prophet, a teacher, a leader, whatever. One only arrives at the conclusion that Jesus is God through faith. I believe there is good empirical evidence that verifies this claim, but I acknowledge that such understanding is ultimately a leap of faith. However, what I would argue is that faith is just as valid way of knowing as any other means of knowing – cognitive, emotional, etc. Ultimately, everything we know in this world we believe on faith. We may have sound data to support our beliefs, but ultimately we are making a faith decision that the data is not deceiving us and that we can trust our understanding.

Second, yes, there are some other peculiar myths that parallel the Christ event, just as there are other stories of creation, fall, a great flood and redemption. But none of those other myths involve God himself becoming the created to save his creation. Even if they did, it wouldn’t invalidate the Christian story. Many of the events and stories in the Bible are just as you describe. They are reactions to the cultural/religious myths of their era. As Paul points out in Acts 17, the Christian Story isn’t just one story competing amongst dozen of other valid stories, but is The Story to which all other stories point.

Third, it seems you have read some of the more “liberal” scholarship – Probably some Crossan; maybe some Spong, Borg, Horsley and Pagels. I’ve read them too. But have you read Wright, Witherington, Boyd, Habermas and Luke Timothy Johnson? I would encourage you to. As you know there are two sides to every story and as a seeker of truth, I would think you would want all the information.

Fourth, as far as the exclusivity of Christ, I believe that God’s plan of redemption runs through Jesus Christ. I am not sure if this means, however, that one has to consciously and verbally confess Christ in this lifetime, but I wouldn’t want to take my chances. But the significance of Christ isn’t just for life after death, but for life BEFORE death. In what I have called the “Jesus Event” (the life, death and resurrection of Christ), God began making all things new. Jesus didn’t just usher in a new way of dying, but a new way of living. And this re-creating involves all of creation, not just humanity.

Finally, it is apparent that you have been hurt in some fashion by the faith of your family. And your current spiritual quest seems to be largely reactionary to that. I don’t blame you. I’ve been there. But what happens in reaction is that we usually tend to swing from one extreme to the other because we want to distance ourselves as far away as possible from the thing that has hurt us. This is only natural, but it does not make it right or true. What I think you really need is not more intellectual stimuli, but deep inner healing. Have you read The Shack? If not, I would recommend it, although as a conossueir of fine literature you may not find it up to par.

I received this email from a good old friend of mine recently which sparked a dialogue between us. I have asked his permission to post portions of it here.

FRIEND:

You’d be proud of me… I recently “had” to tell my parents that we are more in line with a Unitarian Universalist view these days than we are with a Christian one.  That went over like a Led Zeppelin.  But, we will sit down with them soon and see what questions they have the talk it over.

I know you remain Christian but I also know that you really personally feel connected to God through your faith, and that’s cool.  My parents do too, I’m sure.  But what gets me is when someone feels like their religion is the only way that this is possible.  I have a feeling that is the position my parents are going to adhere to, and if so, I’m not really sure how much of a discussion we can even have.

I think they should be happy that we are still interested in God at all (how many ex-evangelical people are out there?) and even more want to raise our kids to be spiritual, loving, people of peace.

Anyway, I have been thinking of you off and on in this whole journey and thought I’d send a quick update.

MY REPLY:

Well… I can’t say I’m surprised… but I am… I guess.  I don’t really know what to say. I have lots of thoughts jostling for position in my head, but none of them really seem significant as words.
I guess my only thing is this. I believe the Jesus Event to be the pivotal moment of history. And I believe that wherever you search for him, you will find him (regardless of your religious orientation). And even if you are not searching for him, he may just find you. My hope is that you will never stop searching, never stop seeking the truth.
I’m open to dialoging further if you’d like, but that’s your call.
Thanks for thinking of me. My thoughts and prayers are with you as well.